Tips for Newly Engaged Couples
We just got engaged, where do we start planning for a wedding? CONGRATULATIONS! You’ve dreamed of this moment for a long time, probably your whole life. A dream wedding ceremony, standing across from the person you love, celebrating the love you share. Before long, you’ll settle down and begin a new life as a married couple.
But hold on a second, before that happens, we’ve got work to do. The wedding planning process can be one of the most challenging times for a couple. So how exactly do you take living as an engaged couple now? In this article, we’re going to give you our top tips for newly engaged couples that will help you adjust to being engaged and make the wedding planning process simpler.
Be Clear on Future Plans and Expectations
Getting engaged can put a lot of pressure on couples. Sit down together and have a discussion about your future plans, expectations, and priorities. This is the time where you decide on whether or not you are going to begin the wedding planning process immediately, or you agree to wait longer to get married.
Talk about your Budget for the Wedding
When you are ready to start the wedding planning process, it is important to hold a family meeting with all parties involved and discuss the wedding budget. This will eliminate confusion and help you properly organize.
Discuss Your Wedding Details Together
Hiring help with your wedding planning can alleviate a lot of stress, but before you bring in a professional, make sure that you and your fiancé have decided on the basic needs of your wedding planning first. This makes it easier for your team to assist you with proper planning.
Hire a Wedding Planner
At Happenings™ we offer you a simple and streamlined way to plan your Central Park wedding with an online ceremony managing platform that connects you to the right wedding managers and vendors you need to create the iconic wedding of your dreams.
Before you Make Assumptions, Ask Questions
As we’ve stated, preparing for a wedding is often very stressful. Don’t try to be a mind reader and make decisions for your partner. Have open discussions with each other about your wedding plans. If you aren’t sure of something, just ask. Even if you think that you know what your partner would choose on certain topics, allow them to make their own choices so that they don't feel left out. Remember, everyone wants to feel heard and validated. Open communication builds intimacy and trust. Additionally, it will reduce your stress levels and simplify the wedding planning process.
Another option is for you and your partner to take time individually to create a list of wedding ideas. Once you’ve each created your own list, you can compare, negotiate, and then make a decision together.
Worry Less About The Expectations Of Others
Expectedly, once your friends and family find out that you got engaged, some of them might give you suggestions for how your wedding planning should go. It’s great to get ideas and feedback from others but not at the expense of your own ideas. It’s important that you set boundaries early on so that others don’t take over your wedding plans. Thank them for their thoughts and make your decisions based on what you and your partner want for your wedding. At the end of the day, this is your wedding, you’ll never be able to please everyone; and you don’t have to try to. Additionally, more than likely you have chosen to hire a wedding planner, which means you are going to have an expert to help assist with your wedding planning.
Agree to Disagree
You and your partner won't agree to everything and compromising on certain details of the wedding isn't going to happen. Ie: Certain people won't get invited, your partner won't allow you to have a Star Wars themed cake, NO you will not have a Halloween themed wedding, sneakers instead of dress shoes... Don't stress over it, let it go. Remember to be respectful towards each other. If you have concerns about your partner or the wedding planning, be sure to discuss it with them directly. Communication is key to a healthy relationship and these are things that can be discussed in private.
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Hire a Professional For the Engagement Photos
One of the most important people for your wedding planning is the photographer. Prior to choosing your photographer for your dream wedding, you can check their skills by having them take your engagement photos. Also, you can ask for shots from previous weddings and for referrals. When meeting with the photographer, bring a list of specific shots that you would like to take for your engagement and wedding pictures.
Be Selfish and Take Time for Yourself
Go out and do something fun for yourself. Spend a day at the spa, go hiking, or take a weekend trip with the girls. It’s ok to make yourself a priority at times. In fact, it’s an absolute must in order for you to have a healthy relationship.
Go Out and Have Fun Together and Don’t Forget to Enjoy Being a Newly Engaged Couple
Let's be honest here, wedding planning can feel like a full-time job. Of course, you deserve to have your perfect day. But the worst thing you can do for your relationship is to spend every moment of your free time stressing out over wedding plans. Focus on your relationship and set the wedding planning aside to spend quality time with your fiance. Head out for a day at the beach, or a night relaxing while binge-watching movies or a Netflix series with your fiance. Take a weekend trip to destress and enjoy life.
Talk to Your Partner about Wedding Jitters
Wedding jitters can be scary and difficult to deal with. However, talking to your partner about them is ok and important to do as long as they know that you aren’t necessarily calling off the wedding. Supporting each other and dealing with the emotions surrounding the jitters can actually help strengthen and grow your relationship.
Happenings™ Ever After: Easily plan the most iconic, memorable day of your life
A lot of people give up on their dreams of an iconic wedding ceremony because it feels too overwhelming to plan. At Happenings™ we’ll help you create one of the most memorable events of a lifetime through thoughtfully organized wedding planning tailored to iconic locations throughout Central Park. Step into your moment with those you love.
Based in Manhattan, Happenings™ founder Tom Noel would often take a walk through Central Park. In 2008, during one of his walks, he stopped to sit at one of his favorite spots in the Park, the Bethesda Fountain. It was here that he realized that the intrinsic beauty that surrounds us was not being harnessed fully. He also realized that not a single business provided the exclusiveness of an affordable and high-quality event planner. Determined to change this, Happenings™ was born.